Communicate with your partner in 6 better ways

There is nothing more frustrating than being engulfed in a disagreement and not communicating with your partner. During an argument, one thing might lead to another, and before you know it, you're fighting over something that happened a long time ago.

The key to a healthy, loving relationship is effective communication. The simplest tasks can become the most difficult when two people's communication languages are vastly different. It may appear impossible to find common ground if you are an open person and your partner is a silent communicator. Therefore, there is no correct way to communicate.

We can always alter our perception of a situation. Here are six hacks to help you better understand problems and communicate with your partner.

1. Listen to Understand.

We all make the same mistake of listening to reply rather than understanding. There are times when your partner needs a shoulder to lean on. You need to realize that opinions on each topic are not always appreciated. Sometimes all you can do is sit and listen to what your partner is trying to say.

Listening does not always have to be practiced during an argument only. It can be as simple as wanting to know what happened during their day at work, what they think about a particular series, or their political views.

Being heard makes a person feel wanted and cherished, and would you ever want to miss a chance to tell your partner how much you adore them??

2. Let Vulnerability Communicate.

We often find ourselves dealing with problems on our own. Sharing our sorrows with others has always been hard for every person. But once you break down the walls around you, you will find help emerging from every direction.

It is of utmost importance to be vulnerable to your partner. Vulnerability draws two people closer together. It fosters trust. It enables you to communicate with them in a sincere and honest manner. For your partner to understand you better, they need to know how and why certain things affect you gravely.

If a person judges you on your vulnerability, maybe it's time for you to walk away because that's a major red flag.

3. Plan Dates.

If you're in a relationship that has progressed from adolescence to maturity, you know how difficult it is to carve out time for each other now. Maintaining a work-life balance becomes difficult due to increased duties.

We instantly expect our spouse to understand our hectic schedule as it is love. We overlook the fact that love needs reassurance from time to time. It's easy to fall in love, but it takes a lot of effort to maintain that love. Plan little things for your partner. Surprise them unexpectedly.

Plan dates. It doesn't have to be a grand date. A simple dinner or binge-watching the favorite show can also work wonders. Talk about embarrassing/cringe things you guys did together. Remind your partner you haven't forgotten them.

4. Have your own life.

If you attach your happiness to a person, you are doing wrong by your partner. You and your partner are two separate individuals. Therefore, it is quite possible what brings you happiness might not mean anything to your partner. That is why it is vital to have a separate life.

Your partner shouldn't be the only one you hang out with. It is critical to have a social life outside of the partnership.

The more people you meet, the better you get at communicating, which helps you in your relationship. You will also have things to talk about at the end of your day. It, in turn, enables you to evaluate your relationship.

5. Let the silence speak.

We live in such a noisy world that silence often loses its importance. We are so accustomed to noise that we have forgotten how well silence can communicate.

It is psychologically proven that people tend to share more when given a moment of silence. So why not take a little help from silence to know your partner better. In a relationship, you should be able to observe comfortable silence.

Silence does not only make you appreciate each other’s company, but at the same time, it helps you to understand the unsaid things. After all, not all things are to be said out loud.

6. Reminisce.

Relationships are all about recollecting embarrassing memories and laughing at them repeatedly. It is noted that dopamine hits you hard when you are uncontrollably laughing.

There are other pros of reminiscing memories as well. You start to remember the small things that made you go head over heels, the things that made you fall, the cringe flirting, and how you both have matured through the years.

You have no clue how intelligent it is to express your sentiments to your partner. So next time, make time, sit, relax, and recall all the happy moments spent together.

Relationships will always have a fair share of ups and downs. You just need to trust the love you share. At the end of the day, all you need is a person to fall back to. Make sure you understand that person completely.